Virgie Tovar, MA is an author, activist and one of the nation's leading experts and lecturers on fat discrimination and body image. She is the editor of Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion (Seal Press, November 2012) and the mind behind #LoseHateNotWeight.

She holds a Master's degree in Human Sexuality with a focus on the intersections of body size, race and gender. After teaching "Female Sexuality" at the University of California at Berkeley, where she completed a Bachelor's degree in Political Science in 2005, she went onto host "The Virgie Show" (CBS Radio) in San Francisco. She is certified as a sex educator and was voted Best Sex Writer by the Bay Area Guardian in 2008 for her first book.

Virgie has been featured by the New York Times, MTV, Al Jazeera, the San Francisco Chronicle, NPR, Huffington Post, Bust Magazine, Jezebel, 7x7 Magazine, XOJane, and SF Weekly as well as on Women’s Entertainment Television and The Ricki Lake Show. Her most recent speaking engagements have included University of Washington, Earlham College, Hollins University, University of California at Berkeley, University of California at Davis, California College of the Arts, Sonoma State University, and Humboldt State University. She lives in San Francisco and offers workshops and lectures nationwide. Find her online at And on instagram

Virgie Tovar's Articles

Take The Cake: 'I Love Dick'

Last week I was sitting anywhere between nineteen and thirty-seven feet from Kevin Bacon. There was a special San Francisco Film Festival screening of the first two episodes of Amazon's new show... Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   04.27.17 12am   |   SHARE
"Seeing big women portrayed as centerpieces in two different films in the same week was something I had never experienced."

Take The Cake: I Want To See Fat Women In Every Film

*Spoiler alert: some character-specific plot point reveals for the films... Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   04.20.17 12am   |   SHARE

Take The Cake: Networking While Fat

This week I went to a networking event and had feelings about it. This is the story of those feelings.  There are a million reasons why I have a not-so-mild aversion to networking (to be revealed... Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   04.13.17 12am   |   SHARE

Take The Cake: Actually, #DONTDropThePlus

The first time I heard about the #DropThePlus campaign I was of two minds. On the one hand, I understood the argument that... Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   04.6.17 12am   |   SHARE

Take The Cake: More Fat Face Representation Please

The other day I was having coffee and ice cream with my friend. We were talking about who we follow online. She is plus size and has asymmetrical breasts and was telling me about how excited she was... Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   03.30.17 12am   |   SHARE
Rock those short-shorts, no matter your size.

Take The Cake: Short Shorts + Jiggly Thighs Forever

I spent most of last week in a southern California heat wave. You know when it’s so hot you start to feel the skin on your face become tighter and tighter because it’s actually kind of getting cooked... Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   03.23.17 12am   |   SHARE
There's a difference between a person genuinely admiring your gifts, and a person who sees you as a way to feel superior.

Take The Cake: Don't Just Blindly Say 'You Inspire Me'

Two weeks ago, I was in West Lafayette, Indiana. I flew into Chicago at around midnight, and I was picked up by new friend and hostess, Mel. Even though we had never, ever met IRL (she invited me to... Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   03.16.17 12am   |   SHARE
On being hyper-aware of one's space, vs. zero awareness of one's space. (Image Credit: Instagram/virgietovar)

'Thinspreading:' Do Thin People Take Up More Space Than Fat People?

I’d like to enter the term “thinspreading” into the running for 2017's new word of the year. I was recently at a party in San Francisco. I invited one of my fav fat babes to come with me, and we got... Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   03.9.17 12am   |   SHARE

Take The Cake: Secret Relationships With Fat Women

When we both moved to San Francisco in our 20s, she moved to a wealthy neighborhood and I moved into a neighborhood where old men had phone sex on the pay phone at the laundromat. Our friendship... Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   03.2.17 12am   |   SHARE
"I had to reckon with the fact that people do this to other people, that men do this to women, that my body had been coopted and turned into a repository for someone else’s shame."

Take The Cake: Is Fatness A Superpower?

This week in Babecamp we were talking about Sarai Walker’s novel Dietland. The main character, who is a fat woman, muses that perhaps her fatness is a... Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   02.23.17 12am   |   SHARE