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I didn’t have one of those coming out moments that involves hugs and tears and “I love you no matter what,” though that did come in time.

Coming Out In A Sea Of Homophobes

I didn’t have one of those coming out moments that involves hugs and tears and “I love you no matter what,” though that did come in time.

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I’ve shared my struggles in navigating when your kid is struggling with their sexuality, at the end of the day, this is my daughter’s story.

What To Do When Your Kid Is Struggling With Their Sexuality

I’ve shared my struggles in navigating when your kid is struggling with their sexuality, at the end of the day, this is my daughter’s story.

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Stick It To The Homophobes: Why My Lesbian Wedding Will Be Unapologetically Over-The-Top

I suddenly understood why I felt this intense pressure to make my lesbian wedding so wildly spectacular — to stick to the homophobes.

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"I am one of the least sporty people you’ll ever meet, but the drama and the smile-on-your-brother pathos pull me in." Image: Unsplash, Agberto Guimaraes

Why I Have A Complicated Relationship With The Olympics

There are a lot of things to hate about the Olympics.

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In Rio, fencer Ibtihaj Muhammad will become the first American athlete to compete in the Olympics wearing a hijab.

How Diverse Is The US Olympic Team, Really?

Can you name an elite female athlete? If you asked me to name someone other than Venus or Serena Williams I’d have a tough time.

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We are all different, as we come from different backgrounds, experience different hardships, and come to have different perspectives on the world. Image: Thinkstock.

Saying “We Are All The Same” Will Not Unite Us

As much as you want to believe people are all the same, we don’t have the luxury of being seen as the “default” in the same way white, straight, cis people often are. We don’t have the luxury of dismissing our painful history and systemic issues for the sake of everyone getting along, because we’re still in the middle of them.

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I think there are some real advantages offered by moving away from compulsory heterosexuality! Image: Thinkstock.

5 Ways Being Queer Is Actually An Advantage For Me

Straight people, it isn’t that you aren’t awesome; so many of you are! It’s just that, while you enjoy the numerous advantages that your straight privilege allows you, I’d like to celebrate the little things that make being queer totally rad.

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In gay people, masculinity perceives its soft and vulnerable (i.e., human) underside. Image: The All-Nite Images/Flickr.

Masculinity Is Killing Us

To worship all that is masculine often means to frame oneself in opposition to those in the LGBT community. The attitudes and values of that community do make room for the masculine, but predominantly veer toward the gentle, the soft, the empathetic, the sunny, the good-humored, the multicolored, and the spirited.

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