bisexual

When did my sexuality come with a dress code, I don't have to dress gay!? Sexuality is not validated by what clothes you wear. I know exactly who I am.

If bisexuals do not begin claiming their genuine identity, then society will never begin to fully understand and accept that bisexuals exist. I don’t particularly express and proclaim my bisexuality in unwarranted ways for special treatment. I claim my bisexuality for personal, significant reasons because it increases my confidence; decreases anxiety; improves my marriage, and increases bisexual legitimacy.

If I get into a heterosexual relationship and spend the rest of my life with that person, I will still be bisexual. I will still feel that attraction to the man on the other side of the bar, even if I’m in love with my partner who happens to be a woman.

If I get into a heterosexual relationship and spend the rest of my life with that person, I will still be bisexual. I will still feel that attraction to the man on the other side of the bar, even if I’m in love with my partner who happens to be a woman.

Hate hurts us all, but we don’t all receive it with the same systemic intensity. Those of us with the privilege to do so need to push against the borders of what is “permissible” in this society. We need challenge the idea of “normal” — rather than conform to it — so that all of us can live more closely to our truths.

While I have dated and slept with both men and women in my life, I happen to be married to a man. This fact automatically means that I “pass” in most situations, although I still identify as bisexual. People see my opposite-sex partner and assume I am straight.