patriarchy

Lipstick Rebellion

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My mother was a funny mixture of conservative and iconoclastic, and it showed up in her rules. And this was a BIG one:  Never ever wear pink lipstick. 
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Five Ways We Can Stand In Our Power

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This isn’t an essay about how “woke” I am — instead, it’s a journey of reclamation and standing in my power, which started with my getting sober.

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Feminist Dating Survival Guide

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One of the most common questions I've received as a sex and dating coach since Tr*mp's election is “how am I supposed to date straight, cis men anymore?”

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I Know You're Tired & This Is Hard, But We Have To Keep Burning It Down

We will survive this. We will thrive. We have to. Because the patriarchy will not defeat itself.

We will survive this. We will thrive. We have to. The patriarchy will not defeat itself we have to keep burning it down. Here are some ways you can act.

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We're Too Easy On (Straight, Cisgender) Dads

Yes, we should be criticizing these straight, cisgender dads. We’ve been far too easy on them for too long.

Yes, we should be criticizing these straight, cisgender dads. We’ve been far too easy on them for too long. It’s straight out of the patriarchy playbook.

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Can You Enjoy The Beauty Industry Without Hating Yourself?​

Can you partake in the beauty industry and still feel good about your self-worth?

Can you partake in the beauty industry — makeup, tutorials, magazines, and the oppressive standards they impose — and still feel good about your self-worth?

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Lady Doritos: The Chips That Don't Crunch

If Doritos wanted to change something, I’d say they should make their chips slightly smaller so the edges don’t scrape the roof of your mouth when you bite into them. That’s all.

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My Glasses Don't Make Me Less Attractive

My Glasses Don't Make Me Less Attractive. Photo by Sa'iyda Shabazz

I’m just as feminine and fun with my glasses as I am without. My glasses sure don't make me less attractive. Glasses are sexy!

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Being Judgy About Beauty Treatments Was Just My Own Baggage

Obviously, now from my elder perch, I realize it’s best to not be judgy about beauty treatments.

Obviously, now from my elder perch, I realize it’s best to withhold judgment, especially contempt for actions that bring personal joy at life stages you haven’t reached yet. (Though I’m still not married and get cranky that women are taking their husband’s last names more so than twenty years ago.)

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A Beginner’s Guide To Mansplaining On Facebook

This is a beginner’s guide to mansplaining on Facebook (image credit: Tim Gouw via Unsplash)

Right now, on Facebook and Twitter and other social media platforms, thousands of women are freely sharing knowledge, opinions, and personal experiences. Chilling, isn’t it? If you’re a man on the internet, your duty is to swiftly and decisively correct them. This is a beginner’s guide to mansplaining on Facebook.

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