Erin Khar

Ask Erin! is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions, about anything at all.

“This might be a little uncomfortable,” my doctor said. I put my headphones in and clutched my iPhone, turning the volume up on my white noise app, and braced myself for another D&C.

This is not a complicated situation, but a person like your boyfriend wants it to feel complicated so that you feel confused enough to stay.

Q. I’m 39 years old, female, and I have no idea how my life turned into such a soap opera.

I wanted my boyfriend to post pictures with me. I posted pics as well. This might sound childish, but there were always these girls trying to break us up. So, for me, that's how it worked — posting pictures regularly would let them know that we’re still together.

More than 50 years ago, my dad had a daughter and her mom’s new husband adopted her. My dad later had three kids with my mum and no one talked about the other daughter — I didn't know she existed until a few years ago, when my grandmother made some sort of off-hand remark and I started asking questions.

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to…Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to… Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

We chatted with her about the #Girlgaze book, the power of women being their authentic selves, and why she doesn't particularly care whether other people like her — and why you shouldn't care, either.

Failure to thrive. It’s an awful term. All I heard was failure. In my mind, over and over, you’ve failed him, you’ve failed him.