Erin Khar

Erin Khar

Bio

Erin Khar lives, loves, and writes in New York City and sometimes other cities too. She was the recipient of a 2012 Eric Hoffer Editor's Choice Prize for her story, "Last House at the End of the Street," which was published in the Best New Writing 2012 anthology. Her work has also appeared in From the Depths, Sliver of Stone, Mr. Beller's Neighborhood, The Manifest-Station, and a Spark Off Rose live show. She is currently working on her first book, a memoir. When she’s not writing, she’s probably watching Beverly Hills, 90210. 

Erin Khar Articles

I know that every relationship ending can leave some loose ends, but this feels surreal — like what we had never existed.

Ask Erin: How Can I Get Closure After A Sudden Breakup?

I just had a long-distance relationship abruptly end. I have had relationships end abruptly before and sometimes painfully, but this recent one was different.

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It's time to break up, move out, and move on.

Ask Erin: What Should I Do About My Toxic Living Situation With My Boyfriend?

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to… Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

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I am so confused!!

Ask Erin: Do I Stay With Someone Who's Emotionally Distant?

Dear Erin, I am at a crossroads in a 3-year relationship... Last year got rough. My partner stopped seeing friends, drank heavily, and showed other signs of depression/stress. Our awesome and abundant sex life? Gone.

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Because I Don't Want To Lose One More Friend To Drugs

Early Monday morning, while waiting to have blood drawn in my doctor’s office, I was scrolling through my Facebook news feed. One friend had posted about feeling heartbroken.

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How can I please her sexually while still avoiding contracting herpes myself?

Ask Erin: How Do I Have Safer Sex With A Partner Who Has Herpes?

My only concern is, how can I please her sexually while still avoiding contracting herpes myself?

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Al-anon is a solid starting point for dealing with a loved one's addiction crisis.

Ask Erin: Should I Lighten Up About My Partner’s Drug And Alcohol Use? 

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to… Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anyt

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What she didn’t know — and what I didn’t say — is that I was one of THOSE people, one who ended up with a needle in her arm.

I Used To Be A Heroin Addict And Now I’m A Mom

When I found out I was pregnant, I reluctantly made the choice to stay clean. I doubted my decision (both to have this baby and to stay sober) the entire pregnancy and was unsure of how I would feel or what I would do when my child was born. Everyone around me was unsure, too. My parents discussed contingency plans with my son’s father for when — not if — I relapsed. But I didn't.

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I'm confused: She says she doesn’t want anything with me in the future, but she tells me she loves me all the time (and says it’s not in a “friend” way).

Ask Erin: Help! My Ex Is Sending Me Mixed Signals

Dear Erin, I am a lesbian and am currently talking again to this girl who I’ve dated in the past. She and I dated for seven months, until I cheated on her (which was obviously messed up on my part). After we broke up, she started dating my best friend who is literally the same person as me.

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I’d rather let it happen organically than feel forced by circumstance.

Ask Erin: Is It OK If My Out-Of-Town Date Stays With Me Before We Have Sex?

She asked if she could stay with me. The thing is, I don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable. I suggested that I could come visit her for the weekend, but she still wants to come here. Of course, I wouldn’t object to sharing a bed with her, but something keeps giving me pause.

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Me, pre-child, unhappy, probably on drugs. Image: Erin Khar.

7 Important Lessons I Learned From Being A Parent

My son is, without a doubt, the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. He’s also taught me invaluable lessons about myself that I could have never anticipated.

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