Erin Khar

Erin Khar


Erin Khar lives, loves, and writes in New York City and sometimes other cities too. She was the recipient of a 2012 Eric Hoffer Editor's Choice Prize for her story, "Last House at the End of the Street," which was published in the Best New Writing 2012 anthology. Her work has also appeared in From the Depths, Sliver of Stone, Mr. Beller's Neighborhood, The Manifest-Station, and a Spark Off Rose live show. She is currently working on her first book, a memoir. When she’s not writing, she’s probably watching Beverly Hills, 90210. 

Erin Khar Articles

Recently, I asked him ‘where he sees himself in five years.’ He answered back with some joke.

Ask Erin: Should I Leave My Boyfriend Who Has No Ambition?

My boyfriend and I have been together for four years. We have a pretty good relationship, rarely fight, and I love him. However, he has no ambition and it’s really starting to bother me.

Looks like he's on his way to being item #4.

Don’t Do These Things At The Holiday Party

All of this potential socializing got me thinking about the most challenging types of people I’ve encountered at parties (on a regular basis, sadly). Think of this is as my personal PSA, because you don’t want to be that guy/gal.


Ask Erin: My Partner's Father Hates Me

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to… Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.


Hi Erin,

So this one's a little complicated, and I’m not really sure how to explain it without it sounding insane.

My partner and I have been together on and off since we were teenagers, which is now well over half a decade. I love him, and I think that where we are now, I’m probably going to end up with him permanently. This terrifies me.

Even though I know he has a girlfriend now, my feelings for him haven’t really changed. Image: Thinkstock.

Ask Erin: Help! I Found Out The Guy I've Been Seeing Has A Girlfriend!

He’s pretty much exactly the kind of guy with whom I would want a long-term relationship. At least, that’s how I was feeling until yesterday, when he posted a picture of himself and some girl on Instagram, saying that he was so happy to be in love and celebrating his TWO-YEAR ANNIVERSARY with her!

Rather than telling her you’re just not that into her, you can tell her that the dating part is not working for you and that you value her friendship.

Ask Erin: Help! I Hooked Up With My Best Friend, And It’s Not Working Out 

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to… Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

Image by Mariah Aro Sharp @mightymooseart

Rav's Repro: Please Stop Saying These Things To Pregnant People 

I get it. People think they're helpful, sharing their experience. I give advice weekly; who am I to talk? But the thing is, why is so much of the advice given to pregnant people so negative?


Ask Erin!: Am I Being Ghosted? And How Do I Tolerate An Intolerant Friend?

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to…Ask Erin!

I give her my advice, then she comes back the next day whining about everything and asking for the same advice, again! Help!

Ask Erin: Am I Being A Bad Friend? 

Dear Erin,

I need to know if I am being a bad friend. I have a good friend, who is also my roommate; she has been having a lot of issues with the guy she’s seeing. And I mean A LOT of issues. Whenever we are both home, that’s all I hear about.

In the beginning, I didn’t mind listening and giving advice to her. However, it’s getting to the point where I am flat-out annoyed and frustrated, because she is constantly asking me for advice about THE SAME THING!

Image: Unsplash/ Eric Froehling

Rav’s Repro: Can We Stop Judging Other People’s Reproductive Choices? 

When we talk about choice in the world of reproduction, we often distill it to views on abortion. We fight for the right to choose, to have agency over our bodies. Why, for some, does that exclude other choices?

I feel like I'm setting myself up for heartbreak — but at the same time, things could change?

Ask Erin: Help! I'm In Love With A Person I Likely Have No Future With

I recently became involved with a man who is significantly younger than I am. I feel foolish, but at the same time, I know love comes in many different forms. I shouldn't second-guess it; I should just enjoy the ride.