Erin Khar

Erin Khar

Bio

Erin Khar lives, loves, and writes in New York City and sometimes other cities too. She was the recipient of a 2012 Eric Hoffer Editor's Choice Prize for her story, "Last House at the End of the Street," which was published in the Best New Writing 2012 anthology. Her work has also appeared in From the Depths, Sliver of Stone, Mr. Beller's Neighborhood, The Manifest-Station, and a Spark Off Rose live show. She is currently working on her first book, a memoir. When she’s not writing, she’s probably watching Beverly Hills, 90210. 

Erin Khar Articles

What is unhealthy is trying to force your square-shaped relationship into a round hole.

Ask Erin: Am I Polyamorous?

Am I polyamorous? Am I just f*cked up from all the things in my past? Was I just so sexually repressed, that I just need to fulfill this need before I can "settle down" and have a normal relationship?

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Oh no she didn't!

Ask Erin!: Should I Confront My Friend For Sending A Love Letter To My Husband?

Last week, my husband received a Facebook message from a good mutual friend of ours. We are also good friends with her husband. It was basically one long love poem!

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I fell in love with him again because he allowed me to see everything and I was capable of looking.

Rav's Repro: Making Room For Your Loved Ones' Feelings 

As I began to heal, I realized that I had neglected to fully appreciate the grief those closest to me carried. I’m talking about my husband. And my son. And our parents. And our closest friends. Their bereavement was undeniable, yet it took me a moment to acknowledge that it was there.

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Why can't I leave him once and for all?

Ask Erin: My Partner's Bad For Me — Why Can't I Let Them Go?

I'd like your opinion on why a smart, formerly-independent woman can't break ties with someone who I know is emotionally manipulating me, making me question myself, uses me as an option at his convenience, is a womanizer, and admits to being a narcissist?

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What she didn’t know — and what I didn’t say — is that I was one of THOSE people, one who ended up with a needle in her arm.

I Used To Be A Heroin Addict And Now I’m A Mom

When I found out I was pregnant, I reluctantly made the choice to stay clean. I doubted my decision (both to have this baby and to stay sober) the entire pregnancy and was unsure of how I would feel or what I would do when my child was born. Everyone around me was unsure, too. My parents discussed contingency plans with my son’s father for when — not if — I relapsed. But I didn't.

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Adults need ADULT time.

Ask Erin: Help! I'm Worried My Partner’s Kid Is A Deal Breaker

I have a dilemma and I don't know what to do. I am in a lesbian relationship. My girlfriend has a 10-year-old daughter and I am totally OK with that, because I love kids. However, lately we never have any time alone.

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His trust issues are not about you; that’s his stuff. And that stuff is for him to work out.

Ask Erin: Help! My Boyfriend Doesn’t Trust Me

My boyfriend has been feeling "Iffy" about our relationship thinking I'm out entertaining other guys, which I am not. My boyfriend doesn't trust me. Help!

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I just want closure!

Ask Erin: I'm Being Ghosted — How Do I Get Closure?

He totally forgot what time and place we'd agreed upon and ended up being an hour late. He even told me at the restaurant that I was lucky he showed, because if he didn't really like me, he would have blown me off!

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Ask Erin: Help! After My Recent Breakup, I Feel Like I Can’t Go On

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to…Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions abo

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I feel like I'm setting myself up for heartbreak — but at the same time, things could change?

Ask Erin: Help! I'm In Love With A Person I Likely Have No Future With

I recently became involved with a man who is significantly younger than I am. I feel foolish, but at the same time, I know love comes in many different forms. I shouldn't second-guess it; I should just enjoy the ride.

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