Erin Khar

Erin Khar

Bio

Erin Khar lives, loves, and writes in New York City and sometimes other cities too. She was the recipient of a 2012 Eric Hoffer Editor's Choice Prize for her story, "Last House at the End of the Street," which was published in the Best New Writing 2012 anthology. Her work has also appeared in From the Depths, Sliver of Stone, Mr. Beller's Neighborhood, The Manifest-Station, and a Spark Off Rose live show. She is currently working on her first book, a memoir. When she’s not writing, she’s probably watching Beverly Hills, 90210. 

Erin Khar Articles

Separation anxiety.

Ask Erin: Help! My Wife And I Are Separated; What’s The Appropriate Protocol? 

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to…Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

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It’s funny how you leave one toxic relationship for another. Image: Thinkstock.

Ask Erin: Help! How Can I Break My Pattern Of Toxic Relationships?

It’s funny how you leave one toxic relationship for another. Is it that I deserve this treatment? No one deserves to be treated with such disrespect. In my mind I know that. In my heart, I know that also. My libido on the other hand, has a different attitude.

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I am a firm believer that when we decide to marry someone — to make that level of commitment — we should be in sync with our partner’s values.

Ask Erin: Help! He’s A Trump Supporter; Should I Cancel The Wedding? 

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to… Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

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I want someone to act like they want to be in a relationship with me. Her response when I try to talk to her about it is that I don’t get how long-term relationships work" Image: Thinkstock.

Ask Erin: My Partner Won't Admit Our Relationship Isn't What It Used To Be

I’ve been in a lesbian relationship for two years. The first six months were amazing. After that, she began pulling away from me in small ways. At first, she gave me fewer compliments. Then, we started having sex less, going out together less, in general spending less time together.

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Beware of the boa constrictor...

Ask Erin!: Burned In The Bay And The Boa Constrictor

Ask Erin! is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions, about anything at all.

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I'm confused: She says she doesn’t want anything with me in the future, but she tells me she loves me all the time (and says it’s not in a “friend” way).

Ask Erin: Help! My Ex Is Sending Me Mixed Signals

Dear Erin, I am a lesbian and am currently talking again to this girl who I’ve dated in the past. She and I dated for seven months, until I cheated on her (which was obviously messed up on my part). After we broke up, she started dating my best friend who is literally the same person as me.

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You deserve to grieve.

I’m Not Done Talking About Miscarriage And Here’s Why

Here are some further thoughts on miscarriage, the Internet, and how we can be supportive to women going through one.

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Ask Erin!: How Do I Deal With Feeling Isolated As A Single Parent?

I need help dealing with isolation as a single parent. This is my first Christmas, since splitting from my ex-husband. He left when my son was 7 months old, almost a year ago, for another woman.

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I fell in love with him again because he allowed me to see everything and I was capable of looking.

Rav's Repro: Making Room For Your Loved Ones' Feelings 

As I began to heal, I realized that I had neglected to fully appreciate the grief those closest to me carried. I’m talking about my husband. And my son. And our parents. And our closest friends. Their bereavement was undeniable, yet it took me a moment to acknowledge that it was there.

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Oh no she didn't!

Ask Erin!: Should I Confront My Friend For Sending A Love Letter To My Husband?

Last week, my husband received a Facebook message from a good mutual friend of ours. We are also good friends with her husband. It was basically one long love poem!

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