Erin Khar

I am here to tell you to stop judging other people’s outsides and making value judgments on their insides. Depression doesn't care but you should!

Ask Erin! is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions, about anything at all.

By now, unless you are a true Luddite, you’ve heard about yet another vile thing that Donald Trump did. During this entire election process, he’s proven himself to be a narcissistic, bigoted, racist, misogynist. This isn’t shocking. I feel like my head is going to explode.

I recently became involved with a man who is significantly younger than I am. I feel foolish, but at the same time, I know love comes in many different forms. I shouldn't second-guess it; I should just enjoy the ride.

I’m afraid I’m going to lose my wife to AA. My wife and I are both in our mid 30s and we’ve been married for six years, together for nine. When we met, we both drank socially, or I thought we did. I started noticing after we got married that her drinking increased.

When I found out I was pregnant, I reluctantly made the choice to stay clean. I doubted my decision (both to have this baby and to stay sober) the entire pregnancy and was unsure of how I would feel or what I would do when my child was born. Everyone around me was unsure, too. My parents discussed contingency plans with my son’s father for when — not if — I relapsed. But I didn't.

This is not a complicated situation, but a person like your boyfriend wants it to feel complicated so that you feel confused enough to stay.

I just had a long-distance relationship abruptly end. I have had relationships end abruptly before and sometimes painfully, but this recent one was different.

All of this potential socializing got me thinking about the most challenging types of people I’ve encountered at parties (on a regular basis, sadly). Think of this is as my personal PSA, because you don’t want to be that guy/gal.

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to... Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.