Erin Khar

Erin Khar

Bio

Erin Khar lives, loves, and writes in New York City and sometimes other cities too. She was the recipient of a 2012 Eric Hoffer Editor's Choice Prize for her story, "Last House at the End of the Street," which was published in the Best New Writing 2012 anthology. Her work has also appeared in From the Depths, Sliver of Stone, Mr. Beller's Neighborhood, The Manifest-Station, and a Spark Off Rose live show. She is currently working on her first book, a memoir. When she’s not writing, she’s probably watching Beverly Hills, 90210. 

Erin Khar Articles

I know that every relationship ending can leave some loose ends, but this feels surreal — like what we had never existed.

Ask Erin: How Can I Get Closure After A Sudden Breakup?

I just had a long-distance relationship abruptly end. I have had relationships end abruptly before and sometimes painfully, but this recent one was different.

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If the circumstances were different, I would tell him to cut his losses and go back to her.

Ask Erin: Help! My Partner Isn't Over His Abusive Ex.

My partner and I got together last December. The problem is that, while he loves me, my boyfriend hasn’t got over his ex. Being polyamorous, my partners loving other people as well is not a problem.

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Sometimes when we have to deliver shitty news like this, the recipient may misdirect their angry or hurt feelings on the wrong person, because that’s easier to do than confronting the person who betrayed them.

 Ask Erin: Should I Tell My Ex’s New Girlfriend He Was Trying To Get With Me?

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to… Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

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How To Be Alone: A Q&A With Lane Moore

Here at Ravishly, we've long been a fan of her writing, so it was a pleasure to chat with her about her book, How to Be Alone.

Lane Moore is best known as an award-winning sex and relationships editor, a comedian, a rock singer, and an actor. But Lane’s story has had its fair share of ups and downs, from teaching herself how to become her own parent, to living as a homeless teenager in her car, to moving to New York City to pursue her dreams. Even as she felt increasingly cut off from others, she looked to her childhood heroines (like Anne of Green Gables) and romantic heroes (like Jim Halpert from The Office) to remain a hopeless romantic, and believe that she could create for herself the family she never had.

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"Get clear with yourself about what is important to you. And the fastest way to do that is to spend some time with yourself, not distracted by the romantic partner in front of you."

Ask Erin: Should I Be Worried About Hooking Up With A Younger Guy?

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to… Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

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All the medical data seems pointed towards widowers losing their sex drive. Mine has suddenly kicked into overdrive. Image: Thinkstock.

Ask Erin: Help! I'm A Widower And Having Vivid Dreams About My Deceased Partner

I’m a 35-year-old widower with two little girls to look after. It has now been a little over two years since my wife died. Quite suddenly, since last winter, I began having multiple very erotic dreams, always about my late wife. All the medical data seems pointed towards widowers losing their sex drive. Mine has suddenly kicked into over drive.

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Desire for another person may signal some issues with the original relationship.

Ask Erin: Help! I Love My Fiancé, But I’m Tempted To Cheat

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to… Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

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Adults need ADULT time.

Ask Erin: Help! I'm Worried My Partner’s Kid Is A Deal Breaker

I have a dilemma and I don't know what to do. I am in a lesbian relationship. My girlfriend has a 10-year-old daughter and I am totally OK with that, because I love kids. However, lately we never have any time alone.

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Ask Erin: Should I Move In With My Best Friend And Her Husband?

My best friend is married and her and her husband are moving into a new house. Now here’s the thing: My best friend wants me to move in with them, and so does her husband, to help with expenses and because they know I want to get out of my living situation.

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Ask Erin: Help! My Boyfriend Won't Speak To Me

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to…Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

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