asexual

A month or two ago I read an article on possible asexuality signs, and I fit most of them. I think I'm asexual but my family thinks I'm gay.

I first found out about asexuality when I was 19. I was born without a sex drive and I’m not particularly interested in looking for a romantic relationship.

Love and relationships may seem like distant dreams for an asexual person. A lack of interest in sex does not equate to a lack of interest in intimacy.

It's no secret that I'm asexual. I've explained what this means several times, and I know this guy is well aware. How do I get him to back off?

So, if you’re out there in the world feeling broken, and questioning if you’re the only one who doesn’t “get it”, or if you’re eager to learn more about asexuality so you can be a better ally to the LGBTQIA+ community, here are three things that helped me claim and learn about my asexual identity.

I don’t identify with the heterosexual norms that have been shoved down my throat and the pathologizing rhetoric that, for most of my life, shrieked "you’re broken," and then I was publicly ostracized by a person who identifies as part of "the community" — the same community I feel connected to.

It’s frustrating that most identities on the asexuality spectrum are qualified by a “lack” of something — desire, intimacy, attraction. I wonder, what might happen for demisexual (or asexual) people if we turn our focus toward what relationships contain, rather than what they’re missing.

3. Do you masturbate? First, what each person does with or to their body is nobody else’s business. Remember, asexuality is about sexual attraction not necessarily sexual desire or arousal. Simply put, most asexual people can experience sexual arousal; some asexuals masturbate and some do not.