self-esteem

Not impressed. Image: Pixabay.

Why I'm Not Impressed By Your Perfect Instagram Feed

[CN: mention of suicide] It’s not all real. We don’t live curated lives that are built around purposeful omissions of reality...

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Reclaiming our sexuality as we age is a feminist act. Image: Thinkstock.

Reclaiming Sexuality As We Age

[CN: ageism, sexism] What kind of screwed-up culture do we live in where young girls are considered to be sexual beings, but women over 40 are “too old” to be desirable?

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Sensory deprivation provided me with a way to relate to my body that was rooted in acceptance. Image: Camila Cordeiro/Unsplash.

A Day At The Sensory Deprivation Spa Helped Me Accept My Body

[CN: body dysmorphia] Sensory deprivation provided me with a way to relate to my body that was rooted in acceptance: This is me, this is what I feel like, and this is all OK.

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Working to stay in the moment is essential. Who doesn’t replay the past and agonize over what the future may bring? Image: Thinkstock.

Killing The Perfectionist Within: A Guide To Establishing Realistic Expectations Of Yourself

The premise Newman puts forth is that being a perfectionist emanates from a core belief that either one is “not good enough… or that one is ‘unworthy.’” This can develop as a result of “parental criticism or parental indulgence (the latter being constant praise).”

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The most beautiful thing you can be is happy. Image: Thinkstock.

Beauty Is Only Skin-Deep

Recently, I was looking through some old pictures of myself.... Like every other person on this earth, I have my insecurities. As I was looking at these photos, I found myself picking out my faults, finding things that I would like to change, putting myself down for looking a certain way or not looking a certain way.

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You can’t force, manipulate, or sneak your way into a romantic relationship. Image: Thinkstock.

An Open Letter To The Women I've Accused Of Friend-Zoning Me

First of all, befriending someone and becoming their confidant while secretly yearning to get in their pants isn’t just fucking creepy, it’s manipulative. The girls I “befriended” opened up to and trusted me because I was patient, sensitive, and seemed to have their best interests in mind.

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I’ll teach him not to fear making mistakes or be ashamed by his failures. Image: Thinkstock.

Why I'll Teach My Son To Embrace The F-Word (And It's Not What You Think!)

Growing up, I'd been taught to never think, breathe, or even utter this F-word.

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As the recovery begins, I am asking myself: How do you deal with being told, “I don’t like you”?

How To Deal With Being Told “I Don’t Like You.”

Somehow, through the ebb and flow of primary school politics, I had made myself an enemy. Out of nowhere, she had decided to take a grudge against me, and pursue it passionately.

It bothered me for a few good weeks, but after careful consideration, I decided that in fact it did not suit me to have an enemy. One day, when our teacher was out of the room, I came at her with a 2B pencil, and that was that.

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