Elizabeth Laura Nelson

If you constantly find that you’re rubbing people the wrong way, take a look at this list and consider if you’re doing any of the following seven things.

Pretending you don’t have feelings doesn’t pay off.

No regrets about having kids? Maybe it’s time we all came clean.

Would you really rather not get older?

In a marriage, should you really feel lonely that much of the time? And if so, then how lonely is too lonely?

As a person who writes about relationships for a living, I might be one of the people least in need of all this well-meaning advice, which usually amounts to clichés and can even veer into the territory of outright insults. What I need – what most of us need – is for people to hear me, and to trust me.

Sexless marriage? Couples therapists estimate that around 20 percent of marriages are sexless. Don’t give up without giving these ideas a try.

Is it hard for you to accept help when you need it?

The problem with people pleasing: You’re trying so hard to be good. So how come you feel so bad?

The thing is, when you fight with your partner, it’s your amygdala that takes over. It's the part of the brain that processes fear, and it’s powerful.