Erin Khar

Erin Khar

Bio

Erin Khar lives, loves, and writes in New York City and sometimes other cities too. She was the recipient of a 2012 Eric Hoffer Editor's Choice Prize for her story, "Last House at the End of the Street," which was published in the Best New Writing 2012 anthology. Her work has also appeared in From the Depths, Sliver of Stone, Mr. Beller's Neighborhood, The Manifest-Station, and a Spark Off Rose live show. She is currently working on her first book, a memoir. When she’s not writing, she’s probably watching Beverly Hills, 90210. 

Erin Khar Articles

Ask Erin: My Partner's Father Hates Me

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to… Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

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Hi Erin,

So this one's a little complicated, and I’m not really sure how to explain it without it sounding insane.

My partner and I have been together on and off since we were teenagers, which is now well over half a decade. I love him, and I think that where we are now, I’m probably going to end up with him permanently. This terrifies me.

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I am 1 in 4: Pregnancy And Infant Loss Remembrance Day - Image: Mariah Sharp @MightyMooseArt

Pregnancy And Infant Loss Remembrance Day 

October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day to remember and honor miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS, and newborn death.

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What she didn’t know — and what I didn’t say — is that I was one of THOSE people, one who ended up with a needle in her arm.

I Used To Be A Heroin Addict And Now I’m A Mom

When I found out I was pregnant, I reluctantly made the choice to stay clean. I doubted my decision (both to have this baby and to stay sober) the entire pregnancy and was unsure of how I would feel or what I would do when my child was born. Everyone around me was unsure, too. My parents discussed contingency plans with my son’s father for when — not if — I relapsed. But I didn't.

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Like all addictions, step one is coming clean with your problem.

Ask Erin: Am I A Gambling Addict? 

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to… Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

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I know that every relationship ending can leave some loose ends, but this feels surreal — like what we had never existed.

Ask Erin: How Can I Get Closure After A Sudden Breakup?

I just had a long-distance relationship abruptly end. I have had relationships end abruptly before and sometimes painfully, but this recent one was different.

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This Isn't About Politics Anymore; This is Rape Culture

This Isn't About Politics Anymore; This Is Rape Culture 

By now, unless you are a true Luddite, you’ve heard about yet another vile thing that Donald Trump did. During this entire election process, he’s proven himself to be a narcissistic, bigoted, racist, misogynist. This isn’t shocking. I feel like my head is going to explode.

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What is unhealthy is trying to force your square-shaped relationship into a round hole.

Ask Erin: Am I Polyamorous?

Am I polyamorous? Am I just f*cked up from all the things in my past? Was I just so sexually repressed, that I just need to fulfill this need before I can "settle down" and have a normal relationship?

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I know you feel foolish, but thank the universe you're getting out after six months.

Ask Erin: Do I Tell The Girlfriend That I Was The Other Woman? 

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to… Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

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It’s funny how you leave one toxic relationship for another. Image: Thinkstock.

Ask Erin: Help! How Can I Break My Pattern Of Toxic Relationships?

It’s funny how you leave one toxic relationship for another. Is it that I deserve this treatment? No one deserves to be treated with such disrespect. In my mind I know that. In my heart, I know that also. My libido on the other hand, has a different attitude.

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The things I learned spiritually — the coping mechanisms — after all we went through have helped me in endless ways during this pregnancy. (image: @MightyMooseArt)

Rav’s Repro: Managing Stress In A High-Risk Pregnancy 

Rav’s Repro is a column in which Erin explores all topics related to reproduction and reproductive rights.

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