Erin Khar

Erin Khar

Bio

Erin Khar lives, loves, and writes in New York City and sometimes other cities too. She was the recipient of a 2012 Eric Hoffer Editor's Choice Prize for her story, "Last House at the End of the Street," which was published in the Best New Writing 2012 anthology. Her work has also appeared in From the Depths, Sliver of Stone, Mr. Beller's Neighborhood, The Manifest-Station, and a Spark Off Rose live show. She is currently working on her first book, a memoir. When she’s not writing, she’s probably watching Beverly Hills, 90210. 

Erin Khar Articles

Image credit: Mariah Aro Sharp @mightymooseart

Rav's Repro: All The Aches And Pains Of Pregnancy 

I am 28 weeks pregnant, freshly in the third trimester, and in the past week, a whole new crop of symptoms has popped up. This is what they are, and this is how I’m dealing with them. (Sort of. I’m trying.)

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It’s not the age that bothers me. What bothers me is that he’s married and he’s the father of my little brother’s only real friend. Image: Thinkstock.

Ask Erin: Help! I'm Having An Affair With A Married Man

I’m in my early 20s and he’s in his 40s. He’s my 6-year-old brother’s best friend’s father. He’s old enough to be my dad too, actually. He’s got four kids — all with different moms (one who is my age).

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It’s funny how you leave one toxic relationship for another. Image: Thinkstock.

Ask Erin: Help! How Can I Break My Pattern Of Toxic Relationships?

It’s funny how you leave one toxic relationship for another. Is it that I deserve this treatment? No one deserves to be treated with such disrespect. In my mind I know that. In my heart, I know that also. My libido on the other hand, has a different attitude.

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I feel like I'm setting myself up for heartbreak — but at the same time, things could change?

Ask Erin: Help! I'm In Love With A Person I Likely Have No Future With

I recently became involved with a man who is significantly younger than I am. I feel foolish, but at the same time, I know love comes in many different forms. I shouldn't second-guess it; I should just enjoy the ride.

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I just want closure!

Ask Erin: I'm Being Ghosted — How Do I Get Closure?

He totally forgot what time and place we'd agreed upon and ended up being an hour late. He even told me at the restaurant that I was lucky he showed, because if he didn't really like me, he would have blown me off!

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Ask Erin!: When Do I Tell My Husband I Know He’s Cheating?

On Sunday, my husband was in the shower. He left his phone on our bed, which he never does. It lit up with a text from “S.” That’s the name that popped up, “S.” Something about it bothered me. Before I had time to think about it, I was typing in his password, which he has never changed, and read the text which was explicit and made it clear that this person, S, had not only seen my husband’s penis, but had done things with it.

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I am a firm believer that when we decide to marry someone — to make that level of commitment — we should be in sync with our partner’s values.

Ask Erin: Help! He’s A Trump Supporter; Should I Cancel The Wedding? 

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to… Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

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"What can I do to keep my fear from tearing us down?"

Ask Erin: Help! My Trans Partner’s Desire To Be Male Terrifies Me 

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to…Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

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I want someone to act like they want to be in a relationship with me. Her response when I try to talk to her about it is that I don’t get how long-term relationships work" Image: Thinkstock.

Ask Erin: My Partner Won't Admit Our Relationship Isn't What It Used To Be

I’ve been in a lesbian relationship for two years. The first six months were amazing. After that, she began pulling away from me in small ways. At first, she gave me fewer compliments. Then, we started having sex less, going out together less, in general spending less time together.

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Me, pre-child, unhappy, probably on drugs. Image: Erin Khar.

7 Important Lessons I Learned From Being A Parent

My son is, without a doubt, the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. He’s also taught me invaluable lessons about myself that I could have never anticipated.

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