Erin Khar

Ask Erin! is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions, about anything at all.

I get it. People think they're helpful, sharing their experience. I give advice weekly; who am I to talk? But the thing is, why is so much of the advice given to pregnant people so negative?

I met a girl on Tinder. Our first date went pretty well. We hit it off. We’ve had 2 more dates since, including spending a day in the park and grabbing dinner and most recently watching a movie/fooling around.

When I found out I was pregnant, I reluctantly made the choice to stay clean. I doubted my decision (both to have this baby and to stay sober) the entire pregnancy and was unsure of how I would feel or what I would do when my child was born. Everyone around me was unsure, too. My parents discussed contingency plans with my son’s father for when — not if — I relapsed. But I didn't.

My partner informed me that our relationship of nine years was over. I am friends with a couple who were so supportive through the whole ordeal. A few months ago, they invited both my ex and me to a party they were having.

I wanted my boyfriend to post pictures with me. I posted pics as well. This might sound childish, but there were always these girls trying to break us up. So, for me, that's how it worked — posting pictures regularly would let them know that we’re still together.

Do I have a responsibility to tell my rapist that he raped me? Or am I giving him the benefit of the doubt again by assuming he doesn't already know?

A polyamorous relationship requires the desire and consent of all parties involved. So let's talk about your bodyfriend wanting a polyamorous relationship.

She asked if she could stay with me. The thing is, I don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable. I suggested that I could come visit her for the weekend, but she still wants to come here. Of course, I wouldn’t object to sharing a bed with her, but something keeps giving me pause.

As NICU Awareness Month comes to a close, I wanted to share my experience with what it’s like when you bring that baby home from the NICU.