Erin Khar

As NICU Awareness Month comes to a close, I wanted to share my experience with what it’s like when you bring that baby home from the NICU.

More than 50 years ago, my dad had a daughter and her mom’s new husband adopted her. My dad later had three kids with my mum and no one talked about the other daughter — I didn't know she existed until a few years ago, when my grandmother made some sort of off-hand remark and I started asking questions.

My husband of 11 years recently and suddenly left me and our two children, ages 2 and 6. They are not yet aware that he’s gone. They think he’s traveling for work. I know it’s only a matter of time before they figure it out.

Dear Erin, I am at a crossroads in a 3-year relationship... Last year got rough. My partner stopped seeing friends, drank heavily, and showed other signs of depression/stress. Our awesome and abundant sex life? Gone.

This is not a complicated situation, but a person like your boyfriend wants it to feel complicated so that you feel confused enough to stay.

He keeps telling me not to worry, that he’s “not like the others.” I’m starting to think he hates me and he doesn’t want to be in this relationship. It’s only been a little over a month.

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to…Ask Erin!

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to…Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

You’ve met someone who you actually like. There you are, on your first date, and you think, I can’t believe how well this is going.

Do I have a responsibility to tell my rapist that he raped me? Or am I giving him the benefit of the doubt again by assuming he doesn't already know?