Natalie Slaughter

It's okay to dump your friends — even friends who have been there for you in the past. Remember today that you deserve good things and good people.

You can learn to live with the pain, you can move on as I have after over a decade of self-reflection and hard work, but you never, ever get over it.

There’s a lot more information about what it’s like to be a fat woman and the things you should and shouldn’t say. Here's what I want everyone to know...

I’m very aware of the fact that I’m fat — trust me. I’ve had this body for longer than you’ve been familiar with it.

If I have sex with a woman, it does not make me gay. As someone who identifies as female, it doesn’t even make me a lesbian.

Even a Google search will conflate “queer women” with “lesbian.” So the first and most obvious thing I wish people understood about being a queer woman, is that we exist.

Is anything keeping you from believing that you deserve good things?

A polyamorous relationship is like any other relationship — you set rules and sometimes you hit bumps along the way, but everyone involved knows what is and isn’t acceptable.

At this point gender basically exists to sell us stuff.