letting go

My family still couldn't talk about her death out loud, but I needed a reminder she was really gone.

A Stranger Answered My Aunt's Disconnected Number; Here's What He Taught Me About Grief

I touched “Aunt Kelly” on the screen and waited for a robotic voice to say, “this number has been disconnected.” This is how I met Shawn.

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Interior Designs: How Home Shapes Us

I wasn’t expecting to have a visceral response to observing someone I hardly knew do home renovations.

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 I landed on a question that made total sense to my helicopter parenting mom-brain: Does that feel safe in your body?

The One Question That Halted My Helicopter Parenting

After combing through mommy groups, I landed on a question that made total sense to my helicopter parenting mom-brain: Does that feel safe in your body?

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Parenting gets harder. Giving up control of our kids is an art.

Parenting Gets Harder (If You’re Doing It Right)

Parenting gets harder. Giving up control of our kids is an art.

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My mom helped me find the balancing point between caretaking and controlling because she insisted on her autonomy. “I don’t need your help in the shower,” she’d say, “and I can dress myself.”

The Summer My Mother's Progressive Arthritis Taught Me To Love And Let Go​

That summer became the fulcrum of a seesaw: as my children need me less, my mother needed me more. My mother's arthritis taught me to love and let go.

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Coming out of dissociation can feel like waking from a lucid dream.

Dissociation: How It Feels To Feel Nothing

Coming out of dissociation can feel like waking from a lucid dream. One moment you’re on the other side of physical reality, and then you cross the threshold and are part of life again.

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Parenthood: Learning To Let Go

As each moment came to pass, I relaxed just a little more. She wasn’t the only one learning to let go. This is parenthood!

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