Melissa Lovitz

Melissa Lovitz

Bio

Melissa Lovitz recently graduated from the University of Connecticut where she earned a B.A. in Human Development and Family Studies. She is currently a graduate student at Brown University studying Urban Education Policy with a focus on family and community engagement in urban communities. She loves country music, gymnastics, coffee, “Grey’s Anatomy,” popcorn and great conversations. You can read more of Melissa’s work at I’m Probably Overthinking This or follow her on Twitter @MelisLov.

Melissa Lovitz Articles

Let's demystify asexuality.

The Top 4 Questions I’m Asked When I Say I’m Asexual

3. Do you masturbate? First, what each person does with or to their body is nobody else’s business. Remember, asexuality is about sexual attraction not necessarily sexual desire or arousal. Simply put, most asexual people can experience sexual arousal; some asexuals masturbate and some do not.

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Demisexuality isn't what you might think.

Demisexuality: The Common Sexual Orientation You Might Have But Not Know About

It’s frustrating that most identities on the asexuality spectrum are qualified by a “lack” of something — desire, intimacy, attraction. I wonder, what might happen for demisexual (or asexual) people if we turn our focus toward what relationships contain, rather than what they’re missing.

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Rather than eating until I felt anxious that I was eating too much or wasting too much time, I ate when I was hungry and stopped when I was full. Image: Thinkstock.

3 Things That Changed When I Started Thinking Of Food As Fuel

Something changed for me when I heard my friend say, “I run so I can eat.” I run so I can cope, so I can feel invincible, so I can think. And so, in a surprising change of events, I challenged them politely and asked, “What would change if, instead, you ate so you can run?”

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Owning my identity changed everything. (Image Credit: Unsplash/Bảo-Quân Nguyễn)

My 'Radical Feminist' Coming Out Story

#YouKnowYoureAFeministWhen… It’s the punchline to a good joke. It’s the start of catchy Twitter hashtag. Right?

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It's rarely necessary to be quite as busy as we are. Image: Pixabay.

Performing Busy

We get it! You’re busy... In a culture literally driven by productivity, a sense of busyness seems like a prerequisite to being your most productive self.

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Interviewing for jobs is a two-way street. Image: Thinkstock.

4 Tips For Your Job Search, From A Millennial To Millennials (And Everyone Else, Too!)

I could link to several sites that list countless questions you should ask in a job interview, but I fear that would be a waste of your time, and condescending to your Google search talents. Instead, I’ll offer this: Make sure you have two or three quality questions prepped to ask at your job interview.

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When my body didn’t fit socially-approved styles, cuts, and sizes, the obvious solution was to change my body rather than find clothes that complemented my physique.

Having Two Breast Reductions Didn't Make Me Happier

My relationship with body is anything but “typical.” So far, I’ve hated my body at every size — and not just because of my size.

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I forget, did I ask for anyone’s permission or opinion about whether or not I belong?

On Coming Out As Asexual

I don’t identify with the heterosexual norms that have been shoved down my throat and the pathologizing rhetoric that, for most of my life, shrieked "you’re broken," and then I was publicly ostracized by a person who identifies as part of "the community" — the same community I feel connected to.

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Realizing I wasn’t alone provided me with the validation I needed to embrace my sexual orientation.

Asexual Awareness Week: What IS Asexuality Anyway?

So, if you’re out there in the world feeling broken, and questioning if you’re the only one who doesn’t “get it”, or if you’re eager to learn more about asexuality so you can be a better ally to the LGBTQIA+ community, here are three things that helped me claim and learn about my asexual identity.

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Bullet journaling all about what works for you. It shouldn’t feel burdensome.

Bullet Journaling For Basic People With Lots Of Thoughts

The trick to successful bullet journaling, in my mind, is to avoid getting caught up in the fanciness of it! Of course, you can make your bullet journal as complex or minimalist as you want, but I’d recommend starting slow. Allow your bullet journaling practice to morph to your needs.

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