Body-positive intersectional feminist. BP Type II. Diet industry dropout. Wife. Mom of 5. Bibliophile. Cake aficionado. Editor In Chief @ Ravishly. Types 17 WPM.

Joni Edelman's Articles

Once upon a time, everything your body did was magic to you.

Why Do You Hate Your Body?

Your body shows up for you everyday. Why do you want to mold it and change it and tell it it’s ugly or fat or saggy or substandard. Why do you hate your stretchmarks? Why is your belly, deflated after childbirth, the object of such loathing? Why are the... Read...
joni edelman   |   01.19.17 12:01am   |   SHARE
Maxwell: Age 4, lover of trucks, lousy sleeper

13 Things My 4-Year-Old Needs To Discuss at 4 A.M.

There is NO RELATIVITY. My children are objectively the worst sleepers of any children in the history of ever.
joni edelman   |   01.12.17 12:01am   |   SHARE
Work at home wearing what you want. Always.

#RavsRecs: Joni Wears Lingerie While She Works (Shhh)

Welcome To #RavsRecs, a look inside the lives (and minds) of your Ravishly staffers. Every week we’ll be coming to you with a list of things that are probably useless but definitely awesome. First up, your editor-in-chief shares teeny hamburgers and underwear.
joni edelman   |   01.10.17 9:07am   |   SHARE
The Pill Box

Birth Control Subscription Box? YEAH. THAT HAPPENED.

How many time have you popped your last pill only to realize that your birth control prescription has run out? DON'T LIE. I know it's at least a few.  (If it's not a few, then we all want to know how you did that.) And how many of those times did you run to... Read...
joni edelman   |   01.9.17 9:49am   |   SHARE
I am still ashamed. But despite that, or in spite of that, my life is beautiful.

Can I Blame My Mental Illness For My Lousy Behavior?

Seven and a half years ago, on the night of my 35th birthday, I told my husband that I wanted a divorce. It was 2 AM. Maybe we’d been arguing, I can’t remember. I can’t remember a lot from that period, except the embarrassment. I remember the embarrassment... Read...
joni edelman   |   01.5.17 12:01am   |   SHARE
Virgie Tovar = Babe

#RavsWriters: Virgie Tovar — Our Favorite Babe Writer Takes The Cake 

Welcome to #RavsWriters, an opportunity for you to get to know some of the outstanding human beings who fervently type to make Ravishly the awesome place it is.  1. Who are you? Virgie Tovar. 2. Tell us about your family, or your cats, or your elaborate... Read...
Joni Edelman   |   01.4.17 12:01am   |   SHARE
There is nothing a thinner body could give me that I do not already have. Image: Substantia Jones and The Adipositivity Project

I Got Naked For The Camera Because Fat Bodies Need To Be Seen

It’s a hard body to live in at times. But I live here. I wake up here and I go to sleep here. I go on vacation here and I wear a bikini here. I walk the streets here. I turn heads — and not in the way that people want to turn heads. I haul my fat ass up on my... Read...
joni edelman   |   12.30.16 12:00am   |   SHARE

Road Trip? Here Are 6 Tips To Make Traveling With Kids Slightly Less Terrible

The holidays afford those of us with a car and nearby extended family (or potentially exciting vacation spots) the ability (responsibility?) to get away from home for the holiday. I hear your collective groan. Every time someone posts an enthusiastic #... Read...
joni edelman   |   12.27.16 12:01am   |   SHARE
The things happening to my body are both unexpected and unwelcome. Image: Thinkstock.

7 Things To Know About Perimenopause (AKA Why I'm Crying/Yelling/Bleeding Everywhere)

I’m not mourning the loss of fertility. I’m mostly just waiting to see what happens next, like some sort of hormonal roulette. I’m writing this for you, so that when your period decides to take an extended vacation, you may understand that this is another... Read...
joni edelman   |   12.26.16 12:00am   |   SHARE
image credit: Staci Sheets

 The Things I Didn't Know About My Rainbow Baby

A year and a half later, in 1995, I would give birth to my first living child — the child that the world considered my first child, that is really my second child. No one used the term “Rainbow Baby” in 1995; the designation didn’t exist. Even if it had, I... Read...
joni edelman   |   12.23.16 12:00am   |   SHARE