Elizabeth Laura Nelson

The elephant in the room is my mental illness. Do my anxiety and depression make me unworthy of love?

Pretending you don’t have feelings doesn’t pay off.

Go ahead. Give in to the misery.

How far should love go?

As a person who writes about relationships for a living, I might be one of the people least in need of all this well-meaning advice, which usually amounts to clichés and can even veer into the territory of outright insults. What I need – what most of us need – is for people to hear me, and to trust me.

Is it better to be alone than to be in a miserable relationship?

The problem with people pleasing: You’re trying so hard to be good. So how come you feel so bad?

The thing is, when you fight with your partner, it’s your amygdala that takes over. It's the part of the brain that processes fear, and it’s powerful.

This is your brain on love. And it’s scary.