gender roles

It was in my second year of college that a girl expressed sexual interest in me. It took me a month to realize that what I thought were hangouts were actually dates. It took me another month to realize I wanted them to be dates. As I realized I wanted her to like me, I slipped back into my old routine — my makeup got more advanced and my hair was always straightened. I still thought that to be attractive, I had to be as feminine as possible. I’d been a hardcore ally for a decade at that point, but had no idea about the politics of beauty within the queer community; I thought I was stepping back into my old role.

Welcome to the ultimate put-down in the wild world of men’s dialogues on the inter webs.

This doesn't mean that the outcomes of domestic violence are always equal; men tend to be bigger and stronger than women, and therefore are more likely to cause serious harm, even in situations where violence is reciprocal. Still, the fact that women are frequently perpetrators of violence in domestic situations substantially undermines the typical story of domestic abuse—and helps to show just how harmful that story is.

If I were a dude, the presumption that fathers don't take as active a parenting role as mothers, full stop, would anger me.

Daredevil focuses on the dynamics of heroism—the display of strength and violence as a way to distance oneself from weakness.

I know that in a lot of ways I am a cultural and ethnic enigma. But discussing my identity all the time can get old. Like, real old, real fast.

Here's a helpful image I want you to keep in mind whenever you are trying to forge a dialogue between the genders: A gaping chasm.

Every interaction is filtered through the lens of my commitment to feminism, except for my choice in who I couple with.