Kristi Pahr

Kristi Pahr

Bio

Kristi is a stay at home mom with two small boys and a very messy house. She and her family raise goats and pigs and she pretends to know something about homesteading. She went to college in the 90s and didn’t learn much, but she met her husband there, so it wasn’t a total waste of time. They were married a short time later and have spent the last 16 years trying to “settle down” and “be normal”. It’s been a huge and glorious mess. Follow her on Facebook and Twitter. Read her blog www.freespiritmama.com.

Kristi Pahr Articles

No retail "therapy" here.

When Shopping For Clothes Is Traumatizing

I have to go shopping tomorrow and I’m dreading it.

Read...
"Attachment parenting is an easy thing to get wrapped up in and it’s an easy thing to feel like you’ve failed at, primarily because there are defined and demanding benchmarks."

Attachment Parenting Wrecked Me

It is understood that to effectively and officially attachment parent your child, you need to hit all the markers, check all the boxes, and do it without dissolving into a crying mess on the floor when your baby won’t stop crying and you only slept for two hours and you have to go to the supermarket because you’re out of coffee, but you shouldn’t even be DRINKING coffee and you’re the worst mother in the world.

Read...
This is a rough time to be a parent.

Raising Sons In The Time Of Trump

I think we can all agree that there is some messed up stuff happening right now.

Read...
Teach your kids to celebrate differences.

White Parents: Teaching Our Kids To Be Colorblind Isn't The Answer

“Is she Black or white?” I asked another mom who was describing a little girl in her son’s class that she thought my family might know.

Read...
Baby + lost salary = struggle (Image Credit: Thinkstock)

Raising Our Family On One Income: Chaotic But Worth It

I know how it feels to not contribute financially to the household. I know how it feels to be completely dependent on someone else for my financial stability. I know how it feels to know that if something dreadful and unthinkable happened, I’d be completely destitute. And it’s terrifying.

Read...
On proving that determination can show up at any age. (Image credit: Kristi Pahr)

I Climbed A Mother Effing Mountain

I’m lazy as hell, you guys. I know it’s true and I’m not particularly ashamed.

Read...
So What Are Essential Oils, Anyway?

Everything You Need To Know About Essential Oils

Essential oils have become incredibly popular and can be found everywhere from your local farmer’s market and community festival to social media.

Read...
Image Credit: Thinkstock

The Day My Son Punched Me In The Face

My parenting mantra is: "Do your best and hope he doesn't turn into a sociopath." And I guess that's really all we can do, because if we're honest with ourselves, I think none of us really know what we're doing.

Read...
I would rather him spend his teenage years gaming with friends and going to geeky cons than drinking beer and trying to get laid.

My Kid Won't Play Organized Sports And I'm Thrilled

When my oldest son was a baby, my husband and I used to talk about what sports he would play.

Read...
Too many victims, too much complicity.

True Stories Of Sexual Assault

These women are from all over the world. They are from different socioeconomic brackets. Their assaults took place during different times over the last 35 years. The victims are completely different, but the stories are all so similar. Victims of assault, rape, harassment, coming forward, being brave and telling the truth, and being stigmatized, ostracized, blamed, ignored, ridiculed. People they love, people they trust, people whose job it is to protect them, blaming them for their assault. It’s common. Almost expected. That women are assaulted, harassed by men, is a given in our culture. That women are blamed is standard procedure. Is it really any wonder that the majority of sexual assaults go unreported? Is it really shocking that a woman would want to save herself additional trauma?

Read...