Virgie Tovar
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The double standard of the soda tax is glaringly absurd, but grounded in a long history of selective regulation and bigoted attitudes.
Read...Solidarity strategies are possible. They happen all the time — though often less frequently in the realm of romance, unfortunately.
Read...The other day I was having coffee and ice cream with my friend. We were talking about who we follow online.
Read...I was introduced to the concept of ugliness when I was five years old. It was, for almost all intents and purposes, the totality of who I was. Fat was me. I was fat. I was taught that fat is the opposite of everything that is feminine, moral, and beautiful. Just like ugliness. But even though I still live in the awful world that made my traumatic childhood possible, I know for certain that ugliness isn’t a physical reality, it is a cultural fabrication. I truly believe that we are born with the capacity to see beauty in all things, and it is through the dispiriting reality of our cultural education that we lose that ability.
Read...I hadn't been to a club like this one — the kind full of straight men who are probably homophobic and at least a little coercive, who smell like Old Spice deodorant and have enough disposable income to keep an open tab (the kind of men I'd been taught were "a catch") — for a very, very long time. I tried to remember exactly how long. A decade? More?
Read...You were taught not to invest in yourself. You were taught to invest in the culture, which is bolstered by patriarchy, racism, etc..
Read...The first time I heard about the #DropThePlus campaign I was of two minds.
Read...I got tired of waking up and being terrified for my health and so I decided to do what I’d been taught to do in moments of distress: craft.
Read...Like, "Yum, there is a table full of delicious food" but also, "Ugh, am I gonna hate myself after I eat this?"
Read...My sad little girl brain remembers exactly what it feels like to risk everything and get rejected. It happened so many times for me during childhood and then later in my early dating years. I’ve created elaborate systems of avoidance, emotional self-control and pre-emptive rejection. And frankly, girl, I’m tired of it. It’s a lot of goddamn work.
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